Towards Resurgent & Responsible India

Kishore Kumar, the singer, composer, poet, actor, director,  today, August, 4 th ; is the birthday of this versatile genius.  Son of Shri Kunjlal Ganguli, a renowned lawyer of Khandwa, and Gauri. Was named Abhas Kumar, which was later changed to Kishore Kumar, as the name sounded like Abbas.  His elder brother actor Ashoke Kumar mentioned in an interview that, when Kishore Kumar was young his voice was hoarse and he used to cough a lot while speaking.  Once he met with an accident and his little finger was severed and cut off, those days there were no pain killers so he cried continuously for days together, which probably cleared his voice.   Ashoke Kumar was already an established, successful actor in Bombay,  Kishore followed him to Mumbai and joined Saraswati Devi (a pseudonym for the Parsi lady composer of Bombay Talkies) as a chorus singer, making his debut in a small cameo in “Shikari” (1946), incidentally produced by his elder brother a...

Continuing our journey of the road of transaction analysis laid by Thomas A. Harris, let’s move ahead from the Child, Adult Parent psychological states and discover what plays in the background in our subconscious whose manifestation are in the form of these states. Very early in life every child concludes ‘I’m not OK’. He makes a conclusion about his parents also: ‘You are OK’. This is the first thing he figures out in his life-long attempt to make sense of himself and the orld in which he lives. This position, I’M NOT OK – YOU’RE OK, is the most deterministic decision of his life. It is permanently recorded and will influence everything he does. Because it is a decision it can be changed by a new decision. But not until it is understood. Transactional Analysis constructs the following classification of the four possible life positions held with respect to one self and others. 1.        I’M NOT OK – YOU’RE OK 2.     ...

Eric Bern a noted psychologist in 1950s developed a concept of transactional analysis to explain various behavioral constructs, based on his theory and concepts Thomas Harris, wrote a cult book “I Am OK You Are OK”. Which explains the concept of transaction analysis and ego states of Child, Adult and Parent and their interplay in deciding our actions and reactions. Let’s just think of class room situation – the students are in the class waiting for the teacher, and all kinds of activities are happening in the class, some students are sitting at a corner doing their assignments, at other end another group is planning for an excursion on the weekend. Few boys are throwing paper balls at each other, suddenly a boy called Durgesh climbs on the table and starts dancing, the entire class turns towards him and some join him in dancing, suddenly another boy called Ajay notices that Durgesh has his shoes on and is making the table dirty with his shoes, he asks him to get down from the...

Trust is common to every individual, relationship, team, family, organization, nation, economy and civilization throughout the world – it’s a thing which, if removed, will destroy the most powerful government, the most successful business, the most thriving economy, the most influential leadership, the greatest friendship, the strongest character, and the deepest love. On the other hand, if developed and leveraged, trust has the potential to create unparalleled success and prosperity in every dimension of life. Yet, it is the least understood, most neglected, and most underestimated possibility of our time. Trust impacts us 24x7, 365 days a year. It undergirds and affects the quality of every relationship, every communication, every work project, and every business venture, every effort in which we are engaged. It changes the quality of every present moment and alters the trajectory and outcome of every future moment of our lives- both personally and professionally. ...

Do you remember as a young boy or a girl, whenever you went out with any of your friend, your mom or dad, would ask you, whom you are going out with. You’d also remember that your parents approved of your friendship with some of your friends and objected on your friendship with some other friends, sometimes you even hated them also for this, as the friend they asked you not to hang out with, was your best friend, well, at least you thought so. They were concerned because they could see what you as young boy or girl were not able to see, they also knew that at such an impressionable age, your heart and mind is susceptible of getting influenced very easily, and the company you keep would play a very significant role in your emotional and moral being. You are not immune to the influence of the people around you, even at an older age.  A good company can help you achieve great things in life, can help you in becoming person of influence and significance and a bad compan...