Connecting with your inner being

In our day to day routine of survival and race with time, we leave our relationships, friendship, family, and even ourselves somewhere on that road to success and continue running on an endless highway.

You will find people, who have reached and arrived, still they are not happy. They have apparently everything which money can buy but still they have the feeling of emptiness and loss. Winning the rat race is self-defeating. It might make you a winner rat, but still you’d be a rat and it’s certainly not nice to realize at the end; after all the compromises, lost and wasted relationships. It’s not a good feeling to see that you have ended up a rat.

Just to win the imaginary race, people get transformed, their lifestyle changes, habits are formed, attitudes are made, and some of them may not be constructive. The hectic and stressful lifestyle is massively destructive to personal health and happiness. It undermines self-confidence and prevents you from achieving your true potential.

This is the main reason why so many people fell off course or as though they’re not travelling down the ‘right’ path and now they are unable to find their way out of the maze. Why? They were given the compass when they started their journey, the compass which would have kept them on the right path and there were quite a few of them; the value compass, the compassion compass, the human compass. The most accurate compass – our inner wisdom – residing within.

What happened? They seem to have misplaced their compass, or did they just dump their compass because someone on their way advised them that if you followed the compass it will take ages to reach there. He mentioned that, there is an alternate shorter route, but your compass is not configured for that route. They took risk, threw away their compass. It was a complex maze that they had to pass through, some of them could manage to come out of that maze, also reached their destination, but they were bleeding, bruised, injured, sick, because the path that they took was ridden with dangers. They are now totally different personalities, selfish, cruel, and sad, in pain, never at peace with themselves. The path they chose took its toll on them.   And now when the journey has reached its end, they realize that the person who met them at the beginning of the journey and told them it’s the goal which is important not the path, was not correct. Path does matter.

You might often hear people say that they feel as though something is missing from their lives? Moreover, it is usually very difficult for them to pinpoint exactly what it is. So many of us are struggling to find more meaning and a sense of purpose in our lives, feel stressed and feel dissatisfied with life. You might want to consider this …it might just be that what’s missing is a sense of self. A high quality life starts with a high quality you! Be gentle with yourself. Set aside some time to reflect.

Cheryl Richardson, personal coach and best-selling author says, ‘We live in a world that continually pulls us outside of ourselves. Between the media, our jobs, and life’s responsibilities, our vision always seem to be turned outward.

Imagine that your life is a giant wheel, with spokes that reach out and touch every area of your life – work, relationships, family, community, health and the like. At the center of this wheel is a core, knowledge, wisdom and experience called you. The more connected you are to this center, the more you’ll be linked to your values, needs and desires, and the more your life begins to take on a deeper sense of meaning and purpose.

In order to capture the ‘something’ that seems to be missing, you’ll need to get to know your inner self in the same way you’d get to know a new lover or friend – you invest a sufficient amount of time and attention in this important relationship.

You can restart your relationship with yourself, and like any other relationship building exercise, it needs to start with communication. Think when the last time you sat with yourself, communicating with your inner self? The easier way to communicate with your inner self is write your feelings, sentiments in a diary, address yourself, but you should also be careful, your inner self is still honest, sincere, truthful so it will go back into hiding if your communication has blames, excuses and complaints. Just talk to yourself without being judgemental, apologetic or defensive. The inner self is very much aware about the real story behind the story.

Entertain your inner self, re-discover your old interest your old hobbies, and take out that carom board, chess board or scrabble, play. You may also listen to some music in his company.

Your relationship with yourself is at the heart of feeling positive, creative and enthusiastic. A good relationship with yourself is needed for you to wake each morning inspired and energized by the prospect of fresh challenges to face and new goals to achieve, a great career, loving relationships, true joy and a meaningful life.